Better Off

My girls and I had a talk yesterday. It wasn't one full of laughs and jokes.. okay, maybe a bit. But on a serious note, my friend really needed help. She was confused at the fact that her ex had texted her and told her he still loved her and that it took breaking up to see what he was losing out on. As the saying goes, you don't know what you have til it's gone. I'm not one for second chances, but when it comes to love, I'd tell her to go for it. The thing is, this isn't the first time that it's happened. So, after hearing the full story, I decided that the best advice I could give was to tell her not to go for it. Sometimes you can love someone but it doesn't mean that they are the right person for you. Sometimes, you just need time apart to work on yourself, by yourself. Sometimes, you realize that the person you thought was the one for you was just a back up; a safety net. I'm not saying that it's the case for her, since I have no idea how their relationship is like.. but that's my own personal opinion. She says that they can't be friends, that he says it's "too hard". I don't believe it. If you really "loved" someone, no matter how hard being friends with them may be, it would be better than to lose them altogether. For this, I know from experience. I used to think that it was "too hard" to be friends with someone I loved but the truth was, it was harder not being friends. It was terrible not to be in their life, not to talk to them, not to know what was going on. So no matter how "hard" it may be, if he truly loved her, he would find a way to make it work. Sometimes, it's better to be alone and together than to be together and alone.