I don't want to be

You know what ruins friendships? Boys. Not just boys, but boyfriends in particular. I think the friends that I have, that have boyfriends, are so attached that they lose contact with their girlfriends and are swept away into a world that's just their own. I don't hear from them much anymore; it's sad really. I hate that once someone gets a boyfriend, they detach themselves from their friends and put their boyfriend first. I understand that it's a nice feeling to have someone to cuddle with and what not but really, it's just.. stupid. Call me bitter and cold but I've been through it. I used to put my boyfriends before my girlfriends. As sad as it sounds, when you're in the relationship I guess you don't see that it takes over you. Well here is a heads up to all you girls that are starting to fall for someone, have already fallen, are beginning a relationship or trying to maintain one; don't do it without friends. Try very very VERY hard not to fall into the trap of alienating friends. Because when the time comes that that boy, the one that supposedly loves you, breaks your heart, you're going to need backup. I've fallen victim of the trap, and I didn't realize it until it was after the relationships ended. Hopefully seeing it in print will allow me to remember easier for the next time I decide to let a boy in. Hopefully, this will remind you too. I don't want to be the girl that puts her boyfriend before her girlfriends anymore. I'm going to remember to have girls nights. But this works both ways. I don't want to be the girl that takes away a guy from his boy friends. I don't want his buddies to dislike me because I take up all his time and he doesn't have time to just "chill" with them anymore. You need a balance.